Givng Space

Space. A much daunted word that is seemingly becoming a cliché. Space. I want my space. I need a space. You give me space. Yan ang katagang naging dahilan ng mga me relasyon. Mapalalaki man o babae.

Ano ba ang space? Ang magbigay ng luwag para sa sariling oras at kapakanan? Really, a space is just like a breather that is needed once in a while before the two of you suffocate. Is it needed? Is it real? Is it a warning sign of a brewing disaster?

When someone starts asking for a space, it means only thing. Trying times. Damn trying times. I need to be alone. I need a respite. I need some air. Space.

It is no wonder then that relationships end up in ruins because either no space was granted or too space was too close to comfort that both have learned to forget the relationship. So how much space? Enough for a relationship to survive. Neither here nor there. Just that much.

Because giving space is not really a sacrifice. But a courtesy. Two persons cannot be one. Each has its own identity. Each has its own levity. Each has its own idiosyncrasy. And when too much had trespassed in each other’s turf, then a conflict arises.

Question is : Space is really needed? A breather? A spoiler of boredom? A motivation to be fresh? A foreboding of bad things to come?

All of the above. And when the relationship is handled well because there is that sense of understanding. A space is not a black star. A space is rest in aid of a relationship. For whatever what people think, even in a relationship, one cannot alter the fact that there are two distinct personalities that make a relationship and it should meld to be successful? Giving space is one of the aids that make it geld.

Especially in our alternative lifestyle. Especially when the odds are against having such a relationship. Perhaps it isn’t too much of a favor when such space is granted.

How one looks a giving space will dictate the result it is perceived it can give. And one looks at it in an adverse way, then surely giving space is not an effective mechanism because it will breed more anger than peace.

How about it guys? You think we need to give some space in a relationship?
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