Doubt and Silence

Sometimes, we are confronted with too many truths , half baked truths and many lies. And it confuses us to no end. Then the doubt persists. The human mind is besieged with so many data and thoughts that we cannot anymore decipher the real from the reel. Unkind to us, but that is how we humans live.

Doubts persists because we like to imagine a story. We like to tell a story. We like to end the story. OUR WAY. OUR THOUGHTS. OUR OWN PREJUDICE.

My rule? Keep silent when in doubt. Let the truth surface. Let the real come out. For it will always come out. Patience is the key. To the listless, this will cause so many sleepless nights. But to the stronger persons, it will shield them from the worries.

Our emotional processes dominate our thoughts when in doubt. Fight this. Let the rational take over. For a reckless thinking will lead to the most irrational decision.

Silence is like rest. It helps create the energy that will carry one to the finish. And when revitalized, the truth shall come out and the doubt will expire. If the truth is equal to the doubt, then face it head -on and calmly. For surely, the energy that you have saved will surely aid you in meeting the challenge face to face.

Givng Space

Space. A much daunted word that is seemingly becoming a cliché. Space. I want my space. I need a space. You give me space. Yan ang katagang naging dahilan ng mga me relasyon. Mapalalaki man o babae.

Ano ba ang space? Ang magbigay ng luwag para sa sariling oras at kapakanan? Really, a space is just like a breather that is needed once in a while before the two of you suffocate. Is it needed? Is it real? Is it a warning sign of a brewing disaster?

When someone starts asking for a space, it means only thing. Trying times. Damn trying times. I need to be alone. I need a respite. I need some air. Space.

It is no wonder then that relationships end up in ruins because either no space was granted or too space was too close to comfort that both have learned to forget the relationship. So how much space? Enough for a relationship to survive. Neither here nor there. Just that much.

Because giving space is not really a sacrifice. But a courtesy. Two persons cannot be one. Each has its own identity. Each has its own levity. Each has its own idiosyncrasy. And when too much had trespassed in each other’s turf, then a conflict arises.

Question is : Space is really needed? A breather? A spoiler of boredom? A motivation to be fresh? A foreboding of bad things to come?

All of the above. And when the relationship is handled well because there is that sense of understanding. A space is not a black star. A space is rest in aid of a relationship. For whatever what people think, even in a relationship, one cannot alter the fact that there are two distinct personalities that make a relationship and it should meld to be successful? Giving space is one of the aids that make it geld.

Especially in our alternative lifestyle. Especially when the odds are against having such a relationship. Perhaps it isn’t too much of a favor when such space is granted.

How one looks a giving space will dictate the result it is perceived it can give. And one looks at it in an adverse way, then surely giving space is not an effective mechanism because it will breed more anger than peace.

How about it guys? You think we need to give some space in a relationship?
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A different Me

A newer me? o yes, a lot. a total make over....

I never decided until recently that I needed to change everything ... my looks. I have dramatically changed. From a 38" waistline , I am now down to 31". From a heavy 190 lbs, I am now a slender 144 lbs. all in 7 months. A total makeover. and I will be visiting the gym soon... to firm up whatever lost I have made in the past.

It feels good. I feel sexy. I feel light. And my friends are noticing. I do not want to look like a 45 year old man. I want to look like a delectable 45 year old man! hahahahahahhahahahhaha..A statement!

and it is producing results..... whatever that means................

an ego-boost, you tell me. Oh , definitely! for why not? I can be what the younger men of these days can possibly be. I have learned to realize that having a good phsyique is quite advantageous. and it is making its dent. For surely, I can still be on the watch prey! hahahahahahaha

Come on, guys. We don't want to be looking like respectable 45 year olds. Let us look like tasty 45 year old guys! And I am not kidding.........