Happy Endings........???????

In one of the threads in the vast internet, i came across a discussion where someone asked if there is indeed a happy ending. I guess this means in a relationship. I will talk in general here. I will not distinguish between heterosexual and homosexual relationship. But plain relationship in general.

I was suprised when I read that there are some who do not believe in happy endings. just being cynical? Our purpose in life is to live in happiness. that is the ultimate objective of our existence. but because we are humans, we falter and fall. And we misconstrue everything that happens to us.

Happy endings are supposed to happen. Happy endings must happen. That is my proposition. Things end up sad or tragic is because we view things differently. We crave for revenge. We long for pity. We ask for deliverance. We pray for the heaven. And when things do not emerge as we hope for, we are devasted. Kaya we see it in a different way.

Thinking otherwise, if we do not expect things, then we do not encounter the negatives. And we look at positive perspective. We do not say "we were not mean for each other" . We say "our time has come to pass and there is a wide range of choice for us to move forward". Two disparate notions, but only singular in effect. How ironic, isn't it?

We always side on the negative aspect. Because it is more dramatic? Being happy is a given? is this the reason why we give it a little thought?

On the premise that two distinct individuals fall for each other, have a relationship and part ways, which is the best way to go? Happy or Sad? Of course, you would say happy, Everyone likes it to happen that way..... And unfortunately, it doesn't so we cope and become happy again. A palliative perhaps to ease the pain? No, there is no such thing. A relationship is bound to end sooner or later, literally and figuratively. Like finite creatures that we are, relationships are not a lifetime phenomena.

So what will make a happy ending? Fairy tells have all the classic examples of how a relationshiop should go, if one wants to become happy. But those are fairy tales. In reality, what make us happy then? I submit that there is no distinct difference at all. Relattionshps are just relationships. For both to endure.

So, we have to make the best while it is still there. And while it is happy. For it not, why stay in a relationship?

Life is good, but life can be mean. But what the heck!

Hello Back to Me

It's been months since I last posted a blog, or rather a comment. This series is not yet about to end. I am still in my golden moment.

So, what happened to me from the last time? I got real busy. From WORK, what else? It would be the only thing that can make me real busy. Nothing or nobody can make work like a bee, except work itself. A certified workaholic, yes I am.

Now comes the hardest part. Do I like my work? Yes and no. Yes, because it brings me ego boost, knowing that my work is excellent. No, because, it tires me a lot. Excellence demands perfection. Excellence demands that you give it 100% devotion. But it is very tiring, indeed. How ironic, hindi ba?

I decided to retire next year, in August 2006. It is my tenth year in the bank and I will opt to take my optional retirement. Why? One, I need to enjoy the money that I can get out of my retirement. Two, I am planning to work abroad so that I can rest. Yes, you read it right, to rest. Abroad, there is less pressure, minsan nga wala pa nga. I finish what it is assigned and it is utterly forbidden to take in what is assigned. Yes, people that is true. And that is an advantage to me. A week;s schedule will be given to you before the end of the previous week and you will have the time to tinker with your schedule. More often than not, tapos na ako ng Wednesday of the following week. And I pretend to look busy for the rest of the week. Hindi ba maganda?

Yes, that is the work that I would like to have. I wouldn't want to say na walang challenge, but surely, one gets paid reasonably. Dito, slave ang dating mo. Kung mataas sueldo mo, susulitin ng husto sa iyo.

Just like now. kasi nga pa-impress, ayan napansin ang work ko. I am a very conscientious and diligent worker kaya napansin. Wala akong magagawa , second nature ko na yan. It cannot be otherwise. Masarap pakinggan kasi nga pinupuri ka. Pero hindi tinatanggap sa palengke ang mga papuri. Ang kailangan pambayad. I am a very practical fellow. I like my job because it pays the bills. Kaso, kulang na kulang na. Unlike before, I can survive, pero ngayon, hay ang hirap. I cannot get a second job because my current job demands full attention. Isa pa, bawal sa amin especially na magkakaron ng conflict of interest.

Now I am beginning to be recognized. Despite the fact that nilaglag nila ako sa performance rating last year, I will sock it to their face that I really deserve to get an excellent rating. Hindi pagyayabang, but I work and continue to working hard for it. I have to surpass whatever it is because I drive myself to nuts, to perfection.

I am embarking on a serious threshold of my career life. I will be involved in launching a product that will be the first in the Philippines. And I take particular pride in saying so. This project has meant so much, that I practically ignore the rest. Coming from a workaholic, it only means that I devote 2,000 % on this project while I give 100% on my other 4 projects. Sounds pathetic? You bet my ass. That is the way I work.

Kaya ang gawain ko pagdating sa bahay, kundi internet, libro o kaya tutunganga na lang. That is rest to me. At 44, I hope I can still withstand this driven life. My last hurrah into the realm of hard work. After my retirement, it will be a breeze for me. And I will treat my future job just like a vacation. For nothing can compare the work that I am currently doing.

My advise to you, guys, huwag ninyo akong gayahin. You either lose your sanity or you get sick. But if you can hack it, it wiil be very rewarding and satisfying. Ego booster, ika nga.